Japanese wife is the best

Really? Apparently this is the typical notion in America. Japanese women are submissive and domesticated. Well, many of them do cook pretty well and do stuff around the house. I do not believe that it is part of their submissiveness but women are in charge in Japan! My American friend proudly told me a few years ago that marrying to his Japanese wife was the best decision he has ever made in his life. “You know, breakfast is always ready before I get up, bath is ready and diner. Do you know American girls would do that?” hum..and apparently even in the world ranking, somehow Japanese women are ranked high for their disability to be foreigner’s wives. I can’t comment on that much because I am far from the stereotypes. ^_^But in this Japan today article, it says that “Earlier this month, we brought you an article about foreign men sounding off on the difficulties of having a Japanese wife. While some of their complaints were understandable and others were just downright silly, international relationships in real life don’t always end as happily as in the movie “My Darling is Foreigner.”

The articles actually interviews some men who have gone through the pain of divorcing their Japanese wives. In their particular cases, it wasn’t the cultural differences that led to the separation of the couple but it was rather practical problems related to family and money. Ouch. Money is a problem for many couples no matter where you go…Things are not so simple anymore once children are involved. This issue is very common despite the interracial marriage or regular marriage. For those who are planning to marry your Japanese wife, foreign husband, or foreign wife and Japanese man, the first step to a happy long lasting marriage is to be mindful of differences between you and he. You may find certain things annoying but also respect the fact that your spouse grew up in a different culture. Instead of being irritated, take it as an opportunity to learn something new and thank the person for teaching you. I think mutual respect is extremely important, which was lacking in failed couples that I have seen over the years in college and after college. Regardless of our nationality and race, we are all humans. We want to get connected to another human being and if you are sure about your wife or husband, you want to stay with him or her right? You love him and you want to make him feel special. There is no reason to co overboard. Just who you are and also explain if your husband take some of your words personally, quickly offer an explanation and it’s a cultureal thing and also offer an apology to your husband that it was not intension to hurt you. It takes two people to make the relationship work and no matter how difference you are, I believe that love will always prevail in the end. ^_^