Interracial married couple

Racism exists everywhere..I see a lot of Asian women with White men..and the data shows that it is much more common than the opposite (White women with Asian men) and then, if you are a White woman dating an Asian man, you are more likely to be exposed to criticism, stare and judgement. Unfortunately, that is much more serious here in the US. than in Japan. If you have a white wife in Japan, people would be wondering “how?” “why?” with admiration..

But in America, people would be saying to themselves..”Why is she dating an Asian guy? She should just date a White man..” The reason? I don’t know but racism exists everywhere. I wrote about my own experience of growing up as Ha-Fu in the countryside of Japan, and I feel less pressure and feel like I can just be who I am in where I live in California because it is so much more diverse but I do not know what it would be like in the South, for example. I don’t even want to think about it, but it is still probably better than what I went through as a child because I don’t really need to explain about my nationality and heritage..I am Asian and that’s how people define me here so it is easy enough.

It is heartbreaking to see the short clip of Tamera Mowry crying over her interracial marriage with her White husband. The interesting thing is that you would notice that she has dark skin, but it may take a little to realize that she is half Black, halfWhite. She just happened to have fallen in love with a White man and got married but people make such nasty comments against her..I assume that African American people might be saying these things because black/white issues are much more serious in the U.S. because of the slavery issues.

Mariah Carey is half Black and half White (not exactly but that’s what she has said in some interviews) and was questioning why she needed to explain where she belonged each time just because people are less accepting of her heritage in America compared to Asian/White, White/Latinos..people are going to say whatever they want to say everywhere you go, but black-white combination does seem to stir the most controversy in the U.S.

I used to be much more sensitive about racial issues obviously because I was less equipped to deal with that as a child and it was quite painful. But now if someone comes up and say a nasty thing about my race, I don’t mind talking back to them. This White guy (blond hair, blue eyes) from Texas said something really unbelievable at a bar..I did talk back to him and said something that he will probably never forget if he was sober but anyways, words are powerful and we have to be careful with what we say to other people because it can really hurt the other person. At the same time, we also have to be mindful and try not to take everything so personally..

People are going to think whatever and are going to say whatever they want to say..and often it is their problem. It is more about them and less about you..It still hurts and we have to learn to ignore but in this case, it is a lot more difficult if you are a celebrity..I cannot imagine people throwing really nasty words at me on social media websites and everywhere. But the best remedy is to ignore..and don’t care.